Making Men Moan: Guide to the P-Spot
The P-spot is well renowned for its orgasmic abilities – when done right, the prostate can cause extreme, full-body orgasms for men, resulting in tingling sensations all over their bodies. Touching and rubbing the prostate gland is so sensual as the area is absolutely packed with nerve endings – almost the same amount as what’s found in the clitoris. It’s for this reason that prostate orgasms can feel better than penile ones – they’re deeper and last longer.
Anatomically, the prostate is a muscular gland, weighing approximately 20g – surrounding the urethra just beneath the bladder. During ejaculation, millions of sperm move from the testes through tubes called the vas deferens into the area of the prostate. At this point, the prostate contracts, closing off the opening between the bladder and the urethra, releasing fluid into and pushing semen out. Surprisingly, the fluid excreted by the prostate makes up about 1/3 of the total volume of semen. So, if the main function of the prostate is to aid in ejaculation, what makes it so pleasurable?
Well, it’s filled with a crap-ton of nerves of course! The nerves of the prostatic plexus are distributed to the corpora cavernosa of the urethra and penis, which are areas of expandable tissue that fill with blood during sexual arousal, creating a penile erection. Nerves from the plexus also travel to the vesiculae seminales of the prostate, which are the glands that secrete seminal fluid.
2 sets of nerves (originating in the prostate) are connected to the corpora cavernosa – the uber-sensitive underside of the penis. (The corpora cavernosa also happens to be one of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s internal-clitoris.) The nerves originate from the anterior plexus and travel forward where they attach to the pudendal nerve branches. This network of nerves supports the function of penile erection. Any injury or damage, therefore, results in erectile dysfunction. During pelvic operations, the surgeon must be cautious to maintain the integrity of the fascial to avoid nerve damage.
For many men, massaging the prostate (P-spot) is a true sexual turn-on that can make sexual climax more pleasurable – it’s more important for a guy’s sex life than he might realize. The prostate is a small gland about the size of a walnut which is located internally, in between the penis (front), bladder (above) and rectum (behind). It can be indirectly accessed via insertion of a finger (or toy of choice) 2-3 inches (5-7 cm) into the anus and gently stroking – or by massaging the perineum (a generally defined area in both males and females between the pubic symphysis and the coccyx. The perineum is below the pelvic diaphragm and between the legs. It is a diamond-shaped area that includes the anus and, in females, the vagina.)
It’s a total myth that only certain kinds of guys will be keen on P-spot stimulation. For instance, some people think that a man who’s okay with a woman taking the lead, such as a beta man, is the only one who’ll be keen on P-spot stimulation, but that’s not true. Same goes for the myth that only gay guys like P-spot action. Many straight, alpha guys like P-spot orgasms because it gives them the chance to experience totally new and full-bodied stimulation.
As mentioned above, the male G-spot (or the P-Spot) is about 2-3 inches inside the rectum – but when looking for the spot you will need to move your fingers towards the direction of his belly-button. The prostate gland will feel rough and spongy. It’s important to also take your time with any initial attempts. You’re not going to be able to make him orgasm immediately, especially if you’re trying to rush it (or he’s never experienced it before). Patience will definitely make the experience more satisfying. It’s also best done in combination with other sexual activities.
P-spot orgasms can be sexy for women too! A LELO study found that 80% of women would perform a prostate massage if their partner was down for it. In fact, many women enjoy giving their partners pleasure. So, when he’s having a P-spot orgasm, it means he’s getting a taste of what it’s like to have a penetration G-spot orgasm. With this in mind, it’s important to have open communication during sex and never be too shy or afraid to ask your partner if that tickles your fancy.