Everything You Need To Know About Anal Sex Toys
Did you know that the words “anal”, “anal sex” and “anal sex toy” are the most searched for terms in my industry? I think this is because there are lots of people who want to try it, but are too scared to talk about it. So they turn to the internet for information. That’s why I’m here! Let’s chat about anal sex and the toys you can use to make it fabulous!!
First a couple of things to always remember when considering having any kind of anal play. Numero uno is communication. If you want to tickle his prostate to see if he can have a multiple orgasm, it’s a good idea to let him know you’re going to try it. Just slipping in a finger is probably going to catch him completely off guard, causing him to clench up and break your finger in half! To make anal play as enjoyable as possible, it needs planning and you need to start slow – especially if it’s your first time.
The second all important thing to know, is that the anus is not self-lubricating. So ALWAYS use a lubricant. Preferably a silicone lube such as the Pjur Original Silicone Bodyglide. Even though this one is silicone, it is also safe to use with silicone toys. Some lubes or sprays have an anaesthetic in them to numb the area. I personally think this is a bad idea. Pain happens for a reason. Too much pain is a warning sign. Also, you are doing this for pleasure. You don't want to numb that. The anus has thousands of nerve endings, which when treated right, will give you that new sensation you’re looking for. Just remember to use lube and take it slow and you should be able to keep the pain to a minimum.
The third important thing to know, is that at the point of orgasm, the anus sucks. That is why it is so important to make sure that anything you put up there, has either a long handle or a flared base. You don’t want to be going to the emergency room asking them to remove something. So let’s chat about the different anal toys you can use.
Anal Beads are a fantastic toy for beginners and can be used by both men and women. Just pop them in one bead at a time, until you feel comfortable. Leave them in during sex, and then at the point of orgasm, your partner can either pull them out quickly, which will intensify your orgasm, or pull them out slowly, which will make your orgasm last longer. Try the Fifty Shades Darker Carnal Promise which also have added vibrations and pulsations.
A butt plug can also be used by either sex. Just lube it up and slip it in. There are many people that use butt plugs as a way to train the anus, starting with a very small one and slowly increasing the size. Some butt plugs also vibrate, which is a great way to help the anus relax. Just use it to tickle around the outside. It will slightly numb and relax the area, after which the plug can easily be slipped inside. Keep it in during sex for a fuller, more satisfying orgasm.
This toy is just for him. His prostate – or P-Spot – can give him multiple orgasms, just like your G-Spot does for you. And nowadays there is a huge selection of toys to choose from! Some are simple prostate stimulators, while others include rings that go around the penis and testicles. For a beginner, I would suggest the Rocks Off O Boy which is fairly narrow to begin with and has a section that sits against his perineum, massaging it during sex. It also has 7 different vibrations and pulsations to work through.
In my opinion, these 3 toys are all you need for mind-blowing anal orgasms! Yes, you can have an anl orgasm. As I said, there are thousands of nerve endings, which increase the beautiful sensations from the toys. However, the orgasms actually come from indirectly stimulating her G-Spot, which is just on the other side of a thin membrane in the vaginal passage. And of course, from his P-Spot. So follow these guidelines and give it a go!