Be Body Positive

**This blog was written by Guest Author Melissa Luies**

The Body Positive Movement teaches people to quiet down their critical voices and reconnect to innate body wisdom so they can unlock their full potential.

Although there are still some saying this movement is promoting unhealthy and dangerous lifestyles, Bella Rouge went deeper to find out exactly what #BodyPositive is all about.

Body Positive is not about Fat Acceptance or promoting Fat-Shaming. It's about accepting ALL body types: From Skinny & Fit to A Few Extra Pounds. The movement advocates acceptance of all bodies no matter the form, size or appearance. The goal of the movement is to address the unrealistic beauty standards and to build the confidence of oneself and others.

Recognize and accept everyone is unique.

Every day we are bombarded with unrealistic expectations of what the perfect body should look like. What tabloids don’t show us are the hours of make-up and hair routines, the different lighting setups and Photoshop programs each ‘perfect’ image has to endure before only five of the three hundred photos make it to the billboards, ads, and TV screens.

My point is; look in the mirror today and appreciate yourself and truly take it all in. Appreciate your hips, your thighs, and your arms. Because you are unique. You are beautiful. Accept that yes, you are enough. Appreciate your unique shape.

Practice positive self-talk

It’s important to consciously make yourself aware of this. When you hear these thoughts in your head, stop and listen. You are the only one who would have to listen to your thoughts for the rest of your life. Don’t dwell on these thoughts. Focus on turning them into something positive.

Write down a list of 10 things you really like and appreciate about your appearance and recite them to yourself every day in front of the mirror.

Turn your fear into gratitude

It’s so easy to get caught up in what we do not like about ourselves. Our thighs might not have gaps, or out breast might not be the size we want them.

Turn those negative self-conscious thoughts into gratitude. “Legs, what have you done for me lately?” (They’ve carried you to where you need to go. Allowed you to walk your dog. Helped you hike a beautiful trail in nature.)

“Arms, what have you done for me lately?” (They pick up your child or grandchild. They carry your groceries home from the store. They let you garden or play the violin or paint.)

Find ways to be grateful toward your body and how it allows you to live your life. The moment you start to view your body for all the miraculous things it DOES for YOU, the more you will want to speak kindly to it.

Set healthy goals and not size related goals.

Having a fitness goal is amazing. It’s the motivation behind that fitness goal that is important.

By focusing on being healthier you’re more likely to follow through because the goal is linked to a deeper sense of motivation other than trying to become a Kim Kardashian or Melissa McCarthy lookalike solely because you do not like the way you look.

So instead of hitting the gym twice a day 7 days a week because you want Kim’s booty or not exercising at all and overeating because you want Melissa’s hips, do it because it’s a physically healthy option for you.

You only die once, but you live every day.

So many times people postpone the greatest opportunities life has to offer because they haven’t reached their goal body type.

Skipping out on beach trips with friends and family because you feel ashamed of the stretch marks on your stomach? Remember you carried a 4.5kg baby in there for 9 months straight, giving birth to a healthy child.

You don’t want to go clothes shopping because your hips don’t fill those Levis jeans like the girl in the massive posters advertising those jeans? Wear them! Because you make them look better than any of those girls who had to be photoshopped! 

As long as you tie the reward to the motivation and the progress of your goal and not to the number on the scale or the measurements of your hips. Being healthy should be a lifestyle choice and not some fad or shame-filled punishment. You should enjoy and celebrate your body every day. Right now, where you are. Whether you are training for Iron Man or a Game of Thrones Marathon.

Self-love should not be conditional; you should not wait until you see a certain number on the scale to deem yourself worthy of acceptance.

Body Positive

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  • Andre

    Present your new found practice (touching) to your partner, and see how it effects not just you, but also your partner. Makes it so much more pleasurable 😊

  • Gustav

    Great blog!!! And I do agree that you have to be thankfull for what you have and use it to your advantage

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